How to make a Commitment with Four Approaches
Imagine it’s 4.30 in the morning…….
You’re all comfortable in bed, rugged up in your blankets .
All you can hear is the rustling wind outside.
Your senses tells you it’s going to be a cold day.
But you remind yourself you have made a promise….
A promise to COMMIT to training early mornings (as it is the only time you have free), and you are willing to make that small SACRIFICE of not sleeping in, to bring you closer to your goal of achieving the body you always wanted.
BECAUSE you really WANT it!
With that playing on your determined mind,you summon the courage & strength to rise up & get yourself prepped for the gym.
For every ACTION that is like this, whether it be waking up earlier than usual for something greater or stopping yourself from going back for seconds with dessert will be tied to the story & life you are building.
So today I want to discuss about two things that will always go hand in hand:COMMITMENT & SACRIFICE.
It is is extremely important concept to understand as it is what turns your goals into REALITY.
First I want to explain what COMMITMENT & SACRIFICE really is, then I will go into what it takes through four approaches.
Let’s start with understanding COMMITMENT & how it manifests itself into your life.
It is a concept many individuals claim to have, yet…….it is something that rarely endures.
Something that is much easier to talk about than to actually achieve.
That means pushing yourself when no one else is around, staying loyal to what you said you were going to do,long after the mood you said it in has left you….
However, staying COMMITTED is simple….
Although, it is not always easy.
Any goal, especially fitness/health related, requires COMMITMENT nbecause physiological changes take time.
However, many things will be competing for your attention & time.
Whether it be work, hobbies, relationships etc, they all will continually fight for your focus, meaning your commitment towards a goal will be challenged on a daily basis.
Which brings me to the second piece of the COMMITMENT puzzle that most people forget:SACRIFICE.
Yes, SACRIFICES will be required……..but there doesn’t have to be a negative association tied to it.
So I want to change your impression of what exactly sacrifice is
Think of it as……giving up something that MATTERS of a lower nature, for something that MATTERS MORE of a higher nature.
To put this into perspective, imagine playing a game of chess.
When you play a game of chess certain pieces will be sacrificed in order to win the game
Or gain an advantage over your opponent
If you are an avid chess player you will understand this concept well
The same applies to making commitments to yourself
So if you don’t sacrifice for what you want…..
What you want will be your sacrifice…….
Think about it…….
You’re going to making sacrifices on a daily basis
Either deliberately or by default
So why not make the right sacrifices & get closer to what you truly want
This generally means you have to give up something & often take a chance
And…. Leave your comfort zone
However, if you are working towards something greater….
You will find being out of of your comfort zone will show you
What you are capable of
Help grow & expand your mindset,
Set a path for you
Create a life worth living where you come out on top!
How does that sound?
I know I have your interested
But are you committed to keep reading?
No. Come back when you are ready
If you are still reading let me ask you now
What are you truly committed to?
What are you willing to sacrifice?
If you know your answers & want to know the right approach keep on reading…..
1. Take a Chance
What are you waiting for?
Don’t be that person unwilling or unable to make decisions & choices
Don’t get stuck being that person who says “What if?”
Say YES to the right opportunities
Say NO to the wrong ones using your willingness to sacrifice certain immediate comforts
Don’t sacrifice what you really want long term for what you want RIGHT NOW
Here are some questions I invite you to ask yourself
Are you willing to give up some comforts in exchange for what you really want?
Can you sacrifice it temporarily to get yourself in a better place?
Is a comfort holding your back?
If you answered yes to any of these questions
It’s time to get comfortable becoming uncomfortable
That means putting short term gratification on hold
And…. sacrificing certain COMFORTS in order for you to grow & succeed
So what will you be sacrificing this week?
Perhaps it’s setting that alarm early to get yourself up & hit the gym
Which means to give up sleeping in
Or maybe it’s cutting back on some foods you love to make room for better choices
Just think they are not going to stop making your foods you love in the next few months…
Turn that glowing rectangle (tv) off a little earlier & get to bed
You may sleep better knowing that you sacrificed for something more important
Friday & Saturday nights will always be there….
Sunday brunch dates can wait til a gym session is completed
And sometimes…. Making sacrifices also means….
Letting go out unhealthy relationships
These are the relationships with people who no longer align with your newfound choices
They can be the group of friends who make fun of your healthy lifestyle,
The family member who don’t approve your new ways
Even the partner who tells you to stop worrying about your health
Don’t get me wrong
I am not telling you to completely remove yourself from these people
Just stand up for yourself & if they really care they will support you
If not try hanging out more with forward thinking people
These people will support & celebrate your new found path
Take a chance for something better
But that also means letting something go as well
Whatever the sacrifice is
IDENTITY it & make sure you are WILLING to make it
2. Set Realistic Expectations & Be Accountable for yourself
Each day you & I will face many crossroads
Putting our COMMITMENT to the test
You will have options & how you choose to respond
Will test & define your commitment
However, sometimes with strict expectations you set yourself
You may slip up
However, cut yourself some slack
You will mistakes at times
You will have self doubts along the way
Consider the scenario when you feel tired or irritable
Or when something in life unexpected pops up
You could fall sick,
Or be out at dinner & fall for peer pressure to eat more than you planned to
And when you don’t comply with your expectations
You can feel like a failure
Sometimes thinking to yourself ‘why bother continuing?’
And why it may be easier to encourage your friends when they slip up
It is much harder to allow yourself the same leniency
But by setting realistic expectations
Such as “I am going to train 4 mornings a week at the gym for the next 4 weeks”
Or “I am going to reserve wine for just Friday night”
They are far less likely to turn into a negative spiral
You cannot be perfect (which I will go into with my next point)
Think about the first time you trained legs….
I bet you started thinking ‘This is going to be tough & challenging’
Yet when you started your new food plan your expectations was to be 100% compliant?
So it’s also time to hold yourself ACCOUNTABLE if you want progress
As commitment can also be a perishable thing that needs constant renewing
It usually expires or simply disappears if left unchecked
Try using what I call the Weekly Daily Smart Goal System
At the beginning of each week write down your top 3-5 goals for the next seven days
Before going to bed each night write down 2-4 things you accomplished that day
Even if that means reactions hat are less than supportive
It’s time to get those ambitions out into the open
3. Strive for Excellence over Perfection
Remember it’s not about perfection
It’s about EFFORT through Practicing Excellence
And when you bring that effort every single day
That’s where transformation happens
That’s how positive changes occur
BE GREATER THAN YESTERDAY
Stay focused on the progress you are making and you’ll likely make more
Make the needed sacrifices & focus on moving forward
The perfectionist mindest is what you want to avoid
Focusing on EXCELLENCE is the mindset of achievement & the responsibility that comes along with it
This means asking yourself questions when presented with options
Do I go for a big bowl of ice cream knowing it is not part of my plan or do I eat something more sensible?
Do I stay out late with friends or do I set a curfew so that I get adequate sleep for bootcamp in the morning?
Do I watch another episode on Netflix or do I do some mobility & stretching homework
Do I give up the stairs after a heavy leg day? (You know what I mean :p)
Remember you are only competing with yourself
And you should only try to be better than YOUR yesterday
When debating with that inner voice that tells you for immediate comfort
Ask yourself: “Is this going to benefit me in the long run?”
4. Make room for FUN!
This last point is incredibly important
For obvious reasons if you don’t enjoy the journey
You most likely won’t make it to to the finish line
Do exercises you enjoy doing
Tell your trainer what you love doing
You will work harder, attend more frequently & improve at a faster rate
Make room to kick back & enjoy social occasions with nutrition
This could mean setting aside 2-3 free meals a week depending at where you are at & what is feasible
And going back to the end of point one
Surround yourself with forward & positive thinking people
Who you surround yourself with is who you become
If you managed to get through all this well done!
I can see you are COMMITTED
If you are ready for that step to take your commitment level up a notch
Contact me: firstname.lastname@example.org
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Looking forward to your commitment!
Dave “Progressing Forward” Buck